Yesterday was my dad’s birthday… Actually, I should say that it would have been his birthday. My father passed away ten years ago, and I still occasionally have “pangs of a deep loss.” I miss him a lot, but most of all, I miss the grandfather he was to my children.
I was lucky to have my grandmother until a month before I graduated from college. I was able to take advantage of the proximity of her home to my college. Since my parents lived in “two states over,” I visited my grandmother very often. I loved my time with her.
But, my children lost their grandfather (my father) when they were quite young. They have only distant memories of him, and stories that I have passed on to them.
When I miss my father, I think of the importance of making each day count. I try to remind myself not to take loved ones for granted. Every once in a while, when I find myself getting upset with one of my loved ones, I think to myself… Why am I not treating him/her as well as I would treat a stranger? It seems like we treat the ones we love with “less respect” than we do people we bump into while waiting in the grocery store line. “Excuse me.” or “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to bump into you.” for complete strangers and “Move.” or “Watch out.” for our loved ones. (These are silly examples, but you probably can get my drift.)
I guess that if there is a moral to this entry it would be : Enjoy your loved ones and don’t take them for granted. When you look back with the “pangs of a deep loss” you might wonder why you didn’t/couldn’t find the time…
Donna Lea Simpson says
My dad has been gone for 13 years and I still think about him every day and miss him.
My Dad passed away on December 31, 1999 – on the eve of the millenium. I think of him every single day and miss him so much. We never forget the first man in our lives – our beloved Fathers.
Lost my Dad 3 years ago, I still miss him so much. He almost made it to his 87th birthday still not long enough for me. His birthday would of been last month and it’s still hard for me even after 3 years.
I lost my dad 11 years ago and I still miss him. Now I’m mourning another man in my life. My husband passed away in January. I never knew I could miss someone so much!
Danna - cozy mystery list says
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can only imagine the loss one feels when his/her beloved spouse passes away…
Hazel Holt’s Sheila Mallory series was one of my favorite cozy series. Her newest, “A Time To Die” was the only book in that series that really disappointed me. I also really enjoy Ann Purser’s Lois Meade series. Both series feature no- nonsense British women who stumble onto bodies.