I will post a “regular” Cozy Mystery entry tomorrow morning, but I just wanted to let you all know that I am still in Colorado Springs. Everything is going really well. My husband and I were able to go out truck shopping with my younger brother, which turned out to be a great experience.
All seems to be in order at my mother’s house. The ladies who come in and help her seem to be doing their jobs, which is a great relief to me. I so wish my mom would move down to San Antonio to be with us, but she keeps insisting that she doesn’t want to leave her friends.
Our son has nothing to report about our house, which is another relief. I love that he can take care of it! It enables me to worry, worry, and worry some more about my mom. My husband assures me that all is well, but, you know how it is.
The weather has been absolutely a joy to experience. I don’t know if it’s because I am used to our high humidity, but it seems mighty dry to me up here. I don’t remember it being a problem when I lived here. I guess it’s all relative…
Jackie says
Great news. The ‘Springs is a beautiful place, if you look to the west, isn’t it. And it’s most definitely drier than down here in TX, isn’t it. I relished that initially during our first move from Ft. Worth to Denver … then wished we had the “perfect” humidity of FW. Back again (for some time now), we’re loving it, but occasionally think back to our CO days, the cool nights and mountain views and sigh. Enjoy your time. San Antonio will be there waiting for you!
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Jackie, every time we visit Colorado we are struck by the beautiful weather, even when it’s cold and snowy. Anyway, I am. >>> On our last time through there was a little snow and my husband said he was reminded of why we don’t live there. He’s from Ohio and doesn’t miss the cold, snowy days.
PamB says
Happy for you that all is going well in Colorado.
Danna - cozy mystery list says
PamB, now that my mother has agreed that she needs full-time ladies, it has gotten a little more guilt-free for me.
reginav says
I am glad that all is going well for your mother and her caretakers. I have the same problem with my older sister. She is beginning to have health issues but does not want to leave Boston and come to CT to live closer to me.Her friends and other activities are all there. My children are willing to take me there but it is a long drive for one day and they are not getting any longer. This has been a bad year for allergies in CT . I never had problems before, but boy am I having problems now. I take so many meds that I am afraid of taking an over the counter remedy. I think I will call me doctor for help.
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Regina, it is so difficult when loved ones don’t do what we think is best for them, isn’t it? I am hoping that my mother will change her mind in the future, but she has lived in the Springs so long that I rather doubt she will ever move.
Donna Mc says
Wonderful news about your Mom – I’m so relieved, having been through similar situations with my own folks. Hope the rest of your trip continues to go well!
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Thank you, Donna Mc.
Liesa says
Hi Danna — Sorry I missed you in Colorado Springs. I’m usually up the road in Littleton and would have liked to meet you. I was in California when you were in the Springs. Hope you continue to enjoy Colorado and wish you and your family well.
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Liesa, how lucky are you! You went from beautiful Colorado to phenomenal California. Then you get to return to majestic Colorado!
marion says
Danna, I’m glad things are going well in Colorado. Take care.
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Marion, things are going as well as can be expected. It’s very difficult to take care of things from so far away. My sister is in the Chicago area, so between the two of us, we seem to be keeping things running smoothly for my mother.
marion says
I understand completely. When I’ m worried about someone, I often have this idea that if I can only keep a physical, sort of, eye on them, I can somehow keep them safe. I am such a mother hen. My mother was a ‘helicopter’ too but with a different manner. If there was no way she could know how someone or something was doing, then she didn’t worry. But if the object was within reach, she might go ballistic over just about anything. On the other hand, distance makes me crazy! Funny, isn’t it, that she and I were both worrywarts, though.
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Marion, my husband, on the other hand, has a don’t-worry-you-can’t-do-anything-about-it attitude. It would be nice if I could adopt an attitude between the two philosophies. I know you don’t get anything out of worrying, but how can you help doing it!
marion says
Some people are much more laid back than others and are more philosophical. I had a very dear friend who was like that and the difference between us was remarkable. She was very sweet and supportive of me but things just did not seem to worry her as they do me. On the other hand, there were some issues that I felt she was too ‘easy’ about. I guess any philosophy can be good or bad. She died suddenly in February and I miss her terribly.
It is much easier to be objective about situations that are not immediately your own, although I am sure that your husband is sweet and supportive of you as my friend was of me. I often feel that I worry about situations when I care very, very much but either can not influence them or do not know how to influence them.
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Marion, I’m sorry about your loss. I know how difficult it is to lose a friend.
I wonder if it isn’t better to have only one worrier, than two. Sometimes, when I am going through a super worrying time, my husband is a good sounding board. Most of the time I continue worrying, but at least I know it’s not getting me anywhere…
marion says
I ran out of space. As I was saying, speaking for my self, I wonder if sometimes I feel that if I worry about something, I can do something about a situation I cannot otherwise influence. Other times, I may get a feeling that I am just ‘blowing smoke’ and I need to let go and distract myself. Well, anyway. I have found that there are a couple of activities, namely playing the piano and doing jigsaws, where I can get really interested and defuse anxiety for a while or break a mood. Sometimes, I latch on a good book. I just finished Monica Ferris’s ‘The Drowning Spool’ and enjoyed it very much. Take care of yourself. Love you. Marion
Danna - cozy mystery list says
Marion, I know exactly what you mean about distracting one’s self. I’m like that with my beaded needlework. Unfortunately, I don’t do it very often.